http://www.fullsizechevy.com/forum/general-discussion/technical-maintenance/366028-4l60e-4l80e.html
http://www.garagejournal.com/forum/showthread.php?t=98109
guys there says 4L60e has 16 bolts holding the trans pan on and it's a square pan, the 4L80e has 17 and is more rectangular. I don't know if it's true. Try googling "4L60e 4L80e difference"
the dipstick constantly popping out indicates a pressure build up inside the transmission crankcase. what would cause this i don't know exactly, i'm not a trans expert. maybe a clogged breather vent. but the crankcase pressure in the trans is completely different from the fluid circuits that feed transmission fluid from the pump in the torque converter and through the valve body to the clutches. having a few psi of pressure inside the transmission crankcase would be normal as it heats up, and if the dipstick sits loose in the tube it may be simply normal that it pops up from vibration after running a bit and the trans heating up.
the other thing i know is fluid pressure in the torque converter is sometimes highest, or can be very high, when in reverse. based on your problem happening every 20+ thousand miles or fairly seldom my guess is the cause has something to do with reverse. if it were happening when in drive which you use everyday all the time i would think you would be breaking flex plates much more often.
... like i said, you need to stop at a few trans shops and state your problem. they will probably know the cause. And they can put a pressure gauge on external ports on the transmission and measure fluid circuit pressure when in 1st, 2nd, 3rd... and reverse and confirm the problem. there is a diagnostic procedure to figure all this out and they will know. the dealer probably never did any of this, only replaced the flex plate and pushed the truck out the door. my guess is the problem lies in the valve body causing excessive fluid pressure under certain conditions, resulting in the torque converter ballooning and cracking the flex plate.
http://atp-inc.com/techbulletin/TechBulletin0903.aspx
http://www.agcoauto.com/content/news/p2_articleid/220